Without digging deep within your personal energy, you cannot harness your inner power to unlock your authentic self. Through embodied wholeness, you can manifest all your goals and build better relationships. Baeth Davis explores this topic further with Kendra Cunov, the Founder of the Fierce Grace Incubator. Kendra talks about unleashing intimacy to properly manage personal boundaries, learning how to uphold them and when to cross them. She also shares her No Man Diet that aims to get you out of repetitive and unhealthy relationships. Finally, she explains the Relationship by Design Fundamentals, a course Baeth took herself which focuses on dismissing false beliefs to become more active in handling romantic partnerships.
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Embodied Wholeness For Pleasure, Purpose & Power With Manifesting Generator Kendra Cunov
We have another fascinating guest for you talking about things that many of you have expressed huge interest in, love, relating, how to get love, how to give love. Also, how love yourself, how embodied in your life, and how to be resonant to the adventure of this life. You’re going to love our guest. I want to tell you, if you’re new to the show, how this works. I bring on guests that I personally feel are fully in their purpose. By that, I don’t mean that they’re perfect or that they’re so enlightened that they walk on water. These are human beings, who through will, determination, decision, surrender, whatever their approach was. Some people need to be determined. Some people need to let go, whatever it is for you.
These are people who have said yes to their purpose and are bringing their gifts to other people. As I often say to my clients, if you don’t have money in your bank account, it’s not necessarily that you’re bad with money. You might feel unworthy of money. That’s an issue to work out. Ultimately why you struggle financially is you’re not giving of your gift. Every single one of us has a gift to bring to the other. If you’re not doing that, your life will not work, ever. You have to find a way to bring that gift forward. I, on my journey, cross paths with some amazing people who are living their purpose in a way that’s real and authentic and free. I want you to meet these people so that you have role models. You have examples when you maybe have a bad day or you lose confidence that it can be done in a way that’s authentic for you.
That’s the whole approach to this, is it’s got to be authentic for you. That is the name of the game here at Align to Your Design. We have a wonderful chat with a guest, and then we look at their human design and we talk about some aspect or multiple aspects in their chart and how it’s relating to what they’re doing in their life. With that, welcome to Align to Your Design, our guest is Kendra Cunov and she is the Founder of the Fierce Grace Incubator. You’re going to incubate your fierce grace if you interact with Kendra.
She also has created The Collective, a global web of women devoted to embodied fullness. Kendra has been studying, facilitating, and most importantly, practicing authentic relating embodiment practices and deep intimacy work for several years. Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women, and couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication, and full self-expression. She is most deeply devoted to wholeness. Kendra is one of the most important teachers in my life in the past several years. It is my total honor to welcome, Kendra Cunov. Welcome to the show. It’s so good to have you here.
Thank you so much. It’s good to be here.
I’m so happy to be with you. My first question for you is, how did you come into this line of work? Was it something years ago you knew you wanted to do or was it more a serendipitous synchronicity path that led you into being a teacher of embodiment and intimacy work?
It’s a little more the latter in terms of, when you say serendipitous or synchronicity and then that piece of following breadcrumbs along the way. Part of that had to do with, I was living in a Buddhist monastery, which is where I grew up but I had gone back as a young adult. I had this one moment in particular that stood out because obviously that’s a container of deep practice but it’s a very self-inquiry like with one self-practice but we were living in a community in this little valley. There was this one morning when I looked around me and I thought like, “What is this relational thing?” I was 19 or 20 at the time.
I thought there’s this deep personal inquiry about what is this other thing that we’re not talking about here. That was a key moment. Honestly, I got involved with a man who was not great in many ways for me but a big part of what he did was that I followed him out of the monastery. He introduced me to a lot of relational personal growth. I studied with Marshall Rosenberg and David Deida, and I went to Landmark. I did all the things and I was like, “This is a whole other world.” Anyway, I followed that all along the way and found myself here.
What is here for you?
It’s important for me to follow these, I call them breadcrumbs or the way that things arise. I was talking to a friend of mine who’s a business coach. She was talking about how people do a big pivot. I said, “I’ve never understood that,” because for me it’s always like, “I’m doing this, then this is part of it or then we go here,” but it never feels like it’s not connected. I started the first piece of teaching that I was ever doing for men who wanted to have better relationships with women in a program. Again, this is several years ago, it’s called the Authentic Man Program.
It was like, “This is being offered. It’s wonderful and fulfilling.” There was this shift into more looking at all of our relationships rather than just those intimate relationships, and what is authentic relating itself. There was another shift into, a little bit more specifically, intimacy and polarity work again and then there’s been this shift here. When you’re reading my bio and it ends with, I’m most deeply devoted to wholeness, that’s where here it is now. Whatever seems like or feels like, it serves people’s wholeness is what I’m most interested in working with.
How do you experience wholeness? How do you know that you’re feeling whole or not feeling so whole?
One of the ways that I like to think about wholeness is we have access to all the parts. I wrote a piece years ago called The Myth of Authenticity. That was this piece around that whatever is loudest or most present or we think is right there, it’s not that that’s not authentic but we also have these well-worn grooves. I tend towards a certain stillness, calm, or listening. It’s not that that’s not authentic for me but I’m also a silly person. More historically, not so much present, but that was a less well-worn groove. They’re both authentic, or a louder more dramatic part of me. They are all parts of me.
Despite their differences, people are entitled to be treated with respect.
A lot of the places where I’ll take people as I like to say we’re already always whole. We’re not broken, nobody’s broken, nobody can be broken but the question is, do we have access to all those parts? Often, I’ll take people into places that they might say, “That’s just not me. That doesn’t feel totally authentic.” I like to say, “You never have to go there again but let’s check it out because we don’t know if we’ve never explored that realm of expression.”
It’s quite shamanic. It’s so retrieval in a sense you’re having permission almost to have access to these different parts.
There are these pendulum swings that happen both culturally and then within the personal growth for all of them. There was so much over culture stifling of certain parts of ourselves or any vulnerability or sharing feelings, so there’s almost a pendulum swing to like, “No, I have to be true to who I am.” It’s a good pendulum swing then it’s like, “Who are you?” We get a little more playful with this idea of, “Who the fuck am I?” I don’t know. I’m a miracle arising, so let’s play.
I understand the pendulum swing to people trying to name and codify their identity to overcome oppression and to have recognition and equal access to benefits. There’s a point where I feel like it goes too far and it comes back to, “Okay.” That’s helping you ascertain being equal, and everyone I feel is equal or is not equal. We’re not all equal. We’re all entitled to being treated with respect. That’s what I mean. We all have different skills and abilities, but this idea of being beyond our identity and having that palette of colors that you can play with. In dance, I love to dance.
The more structured dance classes I take, the better my interpretive freeform dance becomes. By taking ballet, jazz, salsa, going to tango lessons, and all of that, it gives me a bigger vocabulary to flow when the music starts playing. People say, “How do you do that?” I’m like, “I practice dancing,” then when it’s time to play, I have a much bigger vocabulary or palette. I feel like in many ways you certainly have done that for me, and from what you’re describing, you have been able to achieve that for yourself to have access to these different parts of yourself.
I love the color palette analogy for sure, then I’m like, “I can mix them.” It’s helpful. It is sometimes counter-intuitive but it’s helpful to remember that sometimes, structure allows for freedom and that the ultimate goal is freedom. It’s freeing our bodies, emotions, and thoughts. It’s the ultimate goal. It becomes a lens to look through, which is like, “Is this moving me in that compass point towards freedom?”
What would you say has been your biggest challenge in intimacy?
I realized that my current partner and I have been together for years. We’ve had a very circuitous path. In some way, from the outside, we look quite conventional at this point. We’re in a heterosexual relationship. We have a child. We live on the same property but it took this consciously choosing along the way. When I had that realization, I was like, “It is a thing to be with someone for a long time.” There’s another thing that’s called for when you’re with someone over time. In some ways, I had a fairly devastating breakup and the two challenges in this last several years that I’ve had have been allowing myself to fall in love again.
I remember the moment when I realized, “I am at a choice point here. We can be fine this way or I could risk that my heart could be broken again and I could be hurt.” I could feel the choice point. I don’t think it’s one or the other necessary but I’ve worked with women in a program called The No-Man Diet or in other relationships, I design fundamentals. I always like to remind people that they have a choice, that there are these choice points and that none of them are better or worse. They don’t make them better or worse people.
We get to stand at those choice points but that was a challenge for me like, “I choose this way where I could have my heartbroken.” That’s what I choose then, there’s been this piece of showing up over time. I don’t call it a to-do list but the things that I do every day. I’ve had on there, “Love Lucas,” who’s my boyfriend. I’m on a streak of every day. I put it on there because I want to make the conscious choice every day to love him in some way and find out each day, what is that.
Has he noticed or reflected back to you this greater openness?
Not explicitly, but in our relationship and in his being, yes.
Is it something you feel?
It’s something that I feel.
You feel closer?
I feel closer and I feel his unguardedness distinctly.
Where do you feel it? Is it something you feel in your body?
In some way we feel everything in our body, so probably yes. In some way, I feel it between us and it’s grown but again, I remember the moment we were sitting next to each other on the couch and suddenly I was like, “There was no defense.” I was like, “That’s amazing,” given some of our history and where we had been and these various things. I thought, “Just that that’s not there was distinct.”
You mentioned the No-Man Diet. Will you share what that is?
It’s no dating relationship sex intimacy. I have had women go through who don’t identify as heterosexual, who date both men and women or queer, but No-Man Diet is a little bit catchier than intimate relationship diet. Another way I talk about it is a relational reset and that place where a lot of times if we’re in a dynamic that we don’t like or we notice ourselves chronically choosing the same partner, we get into the same dynamics, I’m not met in the same way. There’s that repetitive and often that ideas, “I need to choose better people,” which is partly true but there’s this way that we create dynamics together.
If we see something, people have insight and they’re like, “Now I’m going to change.” That’s true. The awareness is a big piece and then we have the potential for that change. Especially if we have long-time habits and it’s not just one relationship or however long that relationship was but these long-time habits that often come from when we were children, how we related to our parents, and the first time we ever had our heartbroken. All of these things, they’re quite long-time habits. It takes this time to totally reset. What I find is that women know and they don’t know but they step in and they’re like, “It’s no dating.”
Maybe that sounds hard or easy but it’s simple. What ultimately happens is bumping up against everything that we use are habit ways of relating to avoid and being with ourselves. It’s twelve weeks and each week, we touch on a new layer and there are practices. It’s an incredible community. It’s always the community of women and how they support each other blows my mind and being on that journey of totally making that choice to clear the slate completely so that then we can step into a whole new way of relating.
It’s important. I had heard and seen you before I joined one of your courses but I had heard of this No-Man Diet before. The word is on the street about your No-Man Diet. I had self-imposed one after a rather unpleasant breakup. It wasn’t the worst breakup of my life but it wasn’t pretty. I could spit on a man. I was like, “I need to be by myself.” I went into seclusion for 5 or 6 months. During that time, I found your course, Beyond Boundaries, then after that course, I did the Relationship By Design Fundamentals, which you’re very generous to give us access to those classes. I have the material to go back to and revisit.
Let me say a little bit about my experience in Beyond Boundaries because that was the first class I took with you then I want to ask you about how that all came about. It was like four parts maybe, it was straightforward the way you introduced it but the thing that struck me was how clear, simple, and in a way, natural you make your teachings. One of the first things you spoke with the group about was the idea that boundaries already exist. They’re already there because with the ex, I had already broken up with him before and should have kept it that way.
He had broken boundaries and I didn’t stick with my boundaries. I was like retracing, like, “The boundary.” The boundaries are already there but sometimes we don’t know they’re there until after. We don’t know. I often don’t know I need a boundary, need to say something, reinforce the boundary, or set parameters to protect my time or whatever until something happens. I realized, “There is a boundary there. I haven’t been acknowledging it.” That course was so profound for me. It helped me consciously feel my own space and aura, my own energy field, and become super mindful of how I interact with other people. Because of your course, I’m aware of it every day now.
Even when I’m driving, I leave more space for whatever reason. I get rear-ended or if my steering wheels are the wrong way and I get smacked, I’m not going to go into the oncoming traffic. It’s little things. I’ll leave two car spaces even though I’m at the red light. Let’s leave some space. “Let me give that person the client time. They’re clearly upset. I’ll reach out to them in a couple of days.” Honoring the energy flow. I have so many questions about this class for you. First of all, why boundaries and how did you know that you were a person called to teach this work? I felt like every person, every child, like in the first grade, should learn these boundary fundamentals. Why don’t we learn these things?
One’s identity is unique in more ways than one that it’s almost like a palette of colors you can play with.
Honestly, I feel the same way. It’s that program for sure. Literally, every person will benefit from that.
Every person needs that course. You want to consider selling it to corporations and colleges. Anyway, that’s a whole other thing. That’s another revenue stream for you right there because people don’t have this information.
These are fun ideas. I’ve been looking at that piece of speaking about why everybody needs this because I have my own lens but I do believe. There were a couple of things that happened. First, I want to speak to that piece you said about what a revelation it was that boundaries already exist. All of my work is deeply informed by connecting with nature. We are obviously part of nature but we have this push-pull separative relationship with and what you know is “nature.” Pretty much everything I teach there’s a way that I see it. Everything is relationship and plants are in relationship with each other and we’re in a relationship with trees and all the ecosystems, the way ecosystems are.
That piece was clearly almost transmitted. It was like I saw it. They’re already here. This points to that piece of I like to let people know they always have a choice. I can know I have a boundary and I can choose not to say it and cross it. It still exists. There will be some consequences for that choice. The same way that there’s a consequence if I choose to name it, hold it, or share it with another person. There’s impact and we’ve recognized that impact is there because we say, “It’s already there no matter what I choose to do with it, whether I choose to say it or not, hold it or not. Cross it myself, let somebody else cross it, completely hold it.” It is a thing.
I love that because it gives us this choice versus like, “If it’s already all there, then I get to choose how I want to work around it.” I love this piece that you said about where you see it everywhere and the way we can make these decisions. Partly, we become much more aware, what you called your aura or I would call it our energetic awareness. We start to become aware of other people’s energetic body and it’s different than walking on eggshells like, “I have to be careful.” It’s like, “I sensed this person. This would make everyone’s life better if I did this. Why would I not want to do that?” It creates more space, life, love, and laughter. Why would we not? You took it and were able to feel the way in which now you’re in contact with the energetics of other beings. It’s so great that it makes my heart sing.
This program came to me while I was sitting in a meadow near Mount Shasta. Partly, I knew I wanted to teach this because I found that I would work on boundaries with nearly every person that came into my sphere, my clients or my students. They didn’t always know we were doing boundary work. They didn’t come going like, “I need to work on my boundaries.” They came going like, “There’s this issue.” I was like, “Okay.” I didn’t even always say that’s a boundary issue but I could see, “These are boundary issues.” I wanted to reframe it because I could see that people didn’t necessarily recognize that. I wanted to create something where people could get that, in and of itself, this is clearly foundational.
Specifically, boundaries were arising in the cultural consciousness, this idea like, “This is a thing that we should have,” but I saw it too dimensional. It’s about what we say no to and pushing people away or it’s the limiting factor. It’s a deeply creative process and this is this huge place where we create our lives by where we delineate between different kinds of relationships and what happens here and what happens there. How deeply sacred that is and how generative. I wanted to speak to that and that was one of the big reasons why I named it Beyond Boundaries. It’s beyond the limiting idea we have about what boundaries are.
Years ago, in my twenties, I lived in this apartment in LA. I had these neighbors and they were a little off their nut. They seem to hell-bent on being friends with me but I didn’t want to be friends with them. I wasn’t feeling it. They would come by Sunday morning at 9 AM and knock on the door. I’ve never been a morning person. Our interview was scheduled for noon Eastern, 11 AM is when I start my workday. I love it because I need the morning to get my shit together. They would come to knock on the door. When I open the door, I was like, “Could you not on Sunday? I sleep in on Sunday. I’ve worked all week. Call me first.”
They were, “Okay.” I saw her in the walkway of the apartment unit. I was going to my car and she’s like, “Baeth.” I’m like, “Here she comes.” She comes over and points at me and says, “People who love each other don’t have boundaries.” I was only 26 years old, I said, “That’s not true. If we don’t have boundaries, it’s never going to work out but it’s not working out because we don’t have boundaries. I got to go. I’ll talk to you later. That’s my boundary. I’m leaving.”
I told them, I said, “I can’t have contact with you anymore. You don’t respect my boundaries.” That was the beginning of me starting to become aware that I was holding this idea that people understood, you respect people’s time, space, and energy. You tune into them first before you knock on their door and know that other people are completely oblivious. I’m glad that you’re bringing this forth. That was my first time being aware that not everyone understands this stuff.
It’s hilarious. Even the way that they would respond. Especially women, there’s so much acculturation here. I work with so many women who second guess themselves. They set some limit and the person pushes or they get mad about it or something, they’re like, “I shouldn’t have done that.” Their response underlined why you needed it in the first place.
When I was dating, I dated a lot of people like my hundred coffee dates. I remember I would get to a certain point. I knew I’m like, “This isn’t going to work out.” I’d call the guy or I’d even meet with him and I’d say, “We’re not a match. Don’t you feel it? We’re not clicking.” Flip out and start calling me names and I would start laughing. I was like, “Thanks for confirming that my decision is correct because your behavior is the whole reason it’s not going to work out between us because you’re all about yourself. You’re sitting here that you don’t even see.”
You don’t even have to say that I would laugh and be like, “Okay,” after they’d call me the C word a few times and I’d hang up the phone. In this relationship, because of your course I’ve been practicing, I’m noticing these boundaries and it’s made our communication so much better. I did Beyond Boundaries, amazing course. Anyone reading this episode, please get on Kendra’s list. The next course I took, Relationship by Design Fundamentals. Will you share a bit about how that came about and what your intention is with that course?
There were a few things that happened. One is that I had been, for several years, immersed in co-teaching with John Wineland and creating work together. In a lot of ways, people who would take our longer-term programs, we did end up getting into relationship in general. The bent of the work was much more around an intimate relationship, sexual polarity, which is awesome. They’re deeply needed in the world as well. I love teaching with John. I love teaching that work, but I have a deep love. My original work was around authentic relating and I have a deep love also for the ways in which we can work with all the relationships in our own lives and where I believe that we have much more power than we think we do in all of those places.
I worked with a group of dentist office managers, talk about niching. I was teaching at a conference and they felt caught between. They were like, “We don’t have power because we’re not the owner or we’re not the dentist. We’re just the manager. We were told how it has to go.” I was like, “You have the most power of anybody. You’re creating the culture of the entire office. How do you want it to go?” We can look at how to do that.
People in instant relationship, I hear so much of like, “They want…” There’s this abdication, “That’s the way it is.” I see it in business. Even in friendships. A lot of times, the way that it will happen in friendships is like, “I’ve outgrown that friend group.” Sometimes that’s true. I’m not saying that’s never true but I’m often like, “Okay, but is there like one person in that friend group you want to connect with?” As a group, they only go to bars and talk about how shitty men are and then you think you either have to do that or you can’t be friends with them. What if you reached out to that one person and you said like, “I’d love to have coffee. I’d love to go for a walk with you in the middle of the day?” When you’re with them you bring up what you want to talk. Find out. I find that there’s this place where people see how things are and thinks that has to be that way.
They have some idea in their head and then they overlay it and then make a decision from it but that’s not necessarily what’s happening.
It’s almost never what’s happening. We give people the opportunity to either shift or confirm. I used to say this when I taught authentic relating, specifically was that I would say, “There are people in the world who do not want to relate like this.” That is true but there is no type of person that does it. It’s not like, “Men don’t want to relate like this. Rich people don’t want to relate like this. People at my work don’t want to relate like this.” There’s no type of person but you will find people, “You’ll go try this.”
There will be people who are like who don’t want to do it. I’m like, “Find that out on the first date. Try it and let yourself find out rather than making this assumption.” That was the impetus and I put it off for a long time because I wanted it to be a longer program. Someone on my team said, “What if it was a fundamental or the basics?” I was like, “I don’t teach basic. That’s not me,” but then they said fundamentals. I was like, “There are some key fundamentals. I can do that.”
It’s because of fundamentals of foundation in some place?
It’s these things and then it’s how they get. It’s authenticity, desire, curiosity, and generosity. Which again, we all know what those words mean but then there’s, what do they mean in practice and what do they mean in practice in specific relationships. That’s what I love to do.
I’ve been bringing that to this relationship. It’s pretty new. We’re over the three months. The beginning of relationships is always so weird and fraught with insecurity and all the little like, “Don’t text too much.” It’s so nerve-wracking for me. I’m like, “I hope we make it through month three,” but we did and I could talk to him and he goes, “Baeth, starting relationships is so awkward. You have to stay in there.” I’m like, “It’s true,” but I noticed that we are bringing both of us those four fundamentals. We got to his house. I picked him up from work because he bikes to work and he got a flat I said, “I’ll pick you up.”
I picked him up and at his house, there were all these boxes from Amazon. I was like, “Look at that.” He went up, he goes, “They’re all for us.” I said, “For us?” We go inside and he starts unpacking these boxes. He bought new bedsheets, which we needed desperately because I don’t know where sheets came from. No amount of washing was going to make them right. They were like guys’ sheets. They need to be burned but they were clean but they were disgusting. Those sheets I pulled off the bed. I put the new sheets on. I threw them away. He bought us this giant fancy scrabble board because we started playing scrabble on a shitty board from Target. It already had water stains after the first use and the little tiles slide off.
We bought the deluxe version that spins and it’s beautiful. I was like, “You bought that for us.” He’s like, “We got to do this right.” I’m like, “You’re being so generous.” He’s like, “Thank you for everything you do, too.” I’m noticing that I can be my full self with this person because I’m a very generous person. I was told I was over-giving and I’m like, “No, I give. That’s how I do.” I’m not in that way in all my relationships not just with men. I was like, “I don’t want to have to modulate my generosity because other people are feeling competent or unable to reciprocate.” That was a boundary for me. The other person needs to be able to reciprocate in their way, their form of generosity. I learned that from you. It gave me a way to look for those four qualities instead of being in an away from mode like, “I don’t want this. I don’t want that.” It’s good to know what you don’t want. That’s part of the boundaries, but then, what do I want? Thank you.
You’re so welcome. Even looking at something like a scrabble board, what’s beautiful about that and then you pointed to how it’s the lens of the pillars is that might never have been something that would end up on your want list specifically. What gets created from that is what you want, which is that you want these experiences of the way that you connect and that’s this way you connect. There’s something that gets created. That’s like, “This is how I want to feel,” but I would never have said, “I want this scrabble board.” That’s the beauty of that.
The beauty of it is it’s his love and care for me and the connection that is created through playing scrabble because we laugh so much and we love beating each other. He’ll be like, “I’m going to trounce you.” I’m like, “No, you’re not.” It was a good time. We don’t let each other win but we laughed so much. We bond over it. When he did that, it touched me. It’s like getting a diamond ring. It was that meaningful because it came from authenticity, curiosity, generosity, and desire, all of that. When we look at it, it’s like, “That scrabble board represents our relationship.” It isn’t the cheap one from Target. It’s the fancy Scrabble Deluxe.
People have much more power than they think they do when it comes to relationships.
It’s about what matters to the two of you and your relationship.
It doesn’t matter what anyone else is but between us, this is meaningful. I thought that was so amazing that happened in light of this interview. I want to look at your human design before we wrap up here. For all of you new to Align to Your Design, I always ask our guests what they want to look at and their charts. I asked Kendra before the show. She was curious about your process around creativity and how you can get in a groove. Do you feel like stuck in the groove creatively or trapped by it?
I want to honor how profuse, honestly, is my creativity without feeling overwhelmed by it. It’s non-stop.
The reason it is non-stop is because gate one, which is off your G Center. The G Center here is a magnet that essentially holds your body together. Science has proven this. We all have one. It’s an actual magnet. This pen has it. Anything that is an object has a magnetic center and the frequency of it is, essentially, love. Everything is held together by this consciousness of love. Love in the sense of generating more. That’s what the G Center is. It wants to generate more awareness, love, purpose, congruence, direction, and clarity. That’s what it seeks.
The one gate off the G Center, notice that it’s number one, the very first gate and the gates relate to your DNA. There are 64 code-ons of DNA, 64 gates in human design. The creativity gate is number one and its self-expression. It happens to be in your design sun, which is the energetic force of your body, is to create. What keeps you healthy is to use your voice in a creative way, which you do through teaching and maybe singing and other things with your voice. I don’t know if you sing.
This is your genetic code. Everything in white you don’t have to worry about. Whatever’s not defined in our genetics is what we’re drawing in from other people, what you don’t have other people bring you the experience of, how convenient. Everything that is colored in is you and the thing that’s so dynamic about your chart because you are a manifesting generator, which means you’ve got your will that connects to the spleen and then it goes up here and connects the G center and then connects up to the throat. Also, your sacral connects up. You have two motors that essentially connect to your throat, which gives you massive manifestation potential when you speak, when you essentially inform people of your point of view, it has a very strong impact on others.
There’s innovative energy that is transmitted to people. With that, what keeps you healthy is to be a leader, line five is leadership, through your creativity. Here’s your core genius. The purpose of your creativity, and people have different purposes for it, is to give people direction. The 214 channel essentially connects this G Center down to your sacral, which is your sex chakra. People that have the 214 are the leaders for humanity. You’re one of the people. I don’t have that channel. I part of it, I don’t have the whole thing. You’re one of the people who’s leading the collective towards something more expanded, something healthier. Not everyone’s going to follow you but that’s what you’re doing.
You also have the 731 channel, which is the democratic leader. You have to be asked to lead, people say, “Will you come? Will you lead? Can I buy a class from you?” You’ll be asked then you say yes to the leadership if it’s correct. Your creativity serves a profound purpose of giving people direction, helping them be part of the right community, and essentially finding their life purpose. That’s the goal that they’re able to take away from what you do. Also, your emotional center is completely open, so you’re not an emotional type. If you ever get emotional, it’s other people. I can tell you are sacral from talking to you because you’re steady. You can tell I’m emotional because my voice goes all over the place. People that are emotional who are corrector all over the place, their energy goes but you’re steady and what you do is you’re able to take on people’s emotions, amplify them, look at them, and see what is going on emotionally with people.
I could say a whole lot more but I want to encourage you to understand that your creativity is the leading force in your physical body. What supports you in this life? You’re an entrepreneur. You’re here to teach people intuitively how to behave correctly for themselves. You’re a lot of what you teach is behavior. What to say, what not to say, how to do it, you give people guidelines so that their behavior gets them the result they want. Ultimately, how do you behave in such a way to have an experience that feels good to you. You’re a master of that. Thank you, Kendra for your time. What are you going to take away from your chart if anything?
That piece around the importance of creativity, it’s timely for me. There are pieces of that I’ve known in a feeling way or they swirl. One of the things I took on was this idea of attending to my creativity in different ways. It feels like a timely confirmation. I appreciate that, and how important it is for my vitality and my life force.
What keeps you radiant is being creative. Your actual physical health is the result of creativity. Whereas in my chart, it’s being alone that keeps me healthy. Being alone, reading, and researching. That’s what I do when I’m alone. I read, research, hibernate. Even in the summer, I’ll close all the drapes and go into my cave and read. Knowing that is so empowering, you have more permission. Creating heals you and makes you money. It’s everything for you. It’s the driving force in your being. Thank you for this time. Before we go, you have a course coming up in August 2021. Do you want to briefly talk about that?
I loved when you were saying that this piece around that, for me, it’s like giving people directions so that they can discover their life purpose, you use those words because the same field near Mount Shasta, where Beyond Boundaries came to me at the same place. Also, this course Pleasure Purpose Power for women, will be a twelve-week program. We’re opening up the doors in July but it’ll begin in August 2021. That piece specifically around purpose, it is that thing where it’s one of my great joys in life when people touch on what is true. It’s not what they do. It’s who they be. Everyone has it.
People get caught and lost in this place of like, “What am I going to do?” I’m like, “No, you already have a purpose. How are you going to live it?” Obviously, there’s a lot more to it because what feels like pleasure, not just sexual pleasure but that’s a huge part of where, as women especially, we touch our purpose. To me, power is the natural outpouring of the first to it. It’s not something we have to do, that they get, and that we take back. It literally is the organic arising from pleasure and purpose embodied wholly. I’m super excited about it.
Pleasure Purpose Power. You’re going to open admission in July and it will start in August 2021. I may be taking another class with you, Ms. Cunov. Your classes are amazing. The thing is, they’re elegant and simple. There isn’t too much preamble material. I don’t need to watch six videos on how to use the portal. It’s very accessible and easy. You are available to help all of us. Thank you for this time. This was such a joy.
It such a pleasure.
To be continued.
I look forward to it. Thank you so much.
You’re so welcome. Thank you, everyone for reading. Come on back to Align to Your Design. We’ll be back with another hot, fresh episode. Bye for now.
- Kendra Cunov
- The Collective
- Authentic Man Program
- The No-Man Diet
- Beyond Boundaries
- Relationship By Design Fundamentals
- Pleasure Purpose Power
About Kendra Cunov
I was born at San Francisco Zen Center & spent the first 7 years of my life exploring the mountains & rivers of Tassajara Zen Mountain Center. The connection that time gave me to Wilderness, and the experience of being surrounded by people who were consciously engaging their lives, have both had a profound & life-long impact on me.
I spent most of my teenage summers living at Tassajara, and returned to live & practice there as an adult for several years.
Another strong influence on my life, was my mother.
My mother is a strong woman, who raised me solo, while following her passion of becoming a teacher. We didn’t have a lot of money, but she created a rich life, full of beauty & experience. I watched her make conscious choices, that often went against the grain, in order to create the life she wanted for herself & for me. From her, I learned fierce determination & that Joy has many paths.